Aging Can Feel Scary—But Here’s What We Can Control

Heather Otterbine

June 8, 2026

June 9, 2026

Heather Otterbine discussing healthy aging, body literacy, and what we can control as we age.

Aging Can Feel Scary—But Here’s What We Can Control

Let’s be honest for a minute.

Aging can feel scary.

Things change. Sometimes very unexpectedly.

You wake up one morning and your joints feel stiffer than they used to.

You gain weight without really understanding why.

You walk into a room and completely forget what you came in there for.

You sleep all night and still wake up feeling like you’ve never gotten enough sleep.

If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

In fact, I was talking with one of my students recently, and she mentioned the unexpected weight gain that seemed to happen almost overnight. She hadn’t changed much, but her body felt different.

And I think one of the biggest mistakes people make when talking about healthy aging is jumping straight into solutions before acknowledging what people are actually experiencing.

Before we talk about what to do, we have to acknowledge how many people are feeling.

Frustrated.

Confused.

Discouraged.

Sometimes even a little scared.

The truth is, our bodies do change.

Hormones change.

Recovery changes.

Life changes.

Pretending otherwise isn’t helpful.

But I also don’t believe that aging and decline are the same thing.

And that’s a distinction worth talking about.

The Trigger Finger That Taught Me an Important Lesson

A few years ago, I woke up one morning and my pointer finger hurt so badly that I couldn’t straighten it.

I couldn’t put weight on it.

Which is a little concerning when you’re teaching yoga classes for a living.

I remember trying to demonstrate poses and thinking:

“Well…this is inconvenient.”

Mike went to the store and bought me a finger splint.

I wore it.

And wore it.

And wore it.

Nothing changed.

The finger still hurt.

I still couldn’t straighten it.

And I remember wondering:

“What is happening?”

Eventually, I was talking with a friend who’s about ten years older than I am.

I described what was going on and she said:

“Oh, you mean trigger finger?”

I said:

“What?”

She said:

“Trigger finger.”

Now, I had heard the term before.

But I thought trigger finger had something to do with guns and action movies.

Not me.

Not my hand.

Not my random Tuesday morning.

She explained what it was, and I remember thinking:

Wait a minute…shouldn’t this be common knowledge?

Shouldn’t somebody have told us this was a thing?

And that’s when something clicked for me.

My finger didn’t magically get better because I learned what trigger finger was.

But something did change.

I stopped assuming something terrible was happening.

I had context.

I understood what was going on.

Sometimes Understanding Comes Before Solutions

I think that’s true for a lot of aging.

Sometimes understanding comes before solutions.

Sometimes what people need first isn’t another exercise program.

Or another supplement.

Or another promise.

Sometimes they need someone to say:

“Yes, that can happen.”

“No, you’re not the only one.”

“And here’s what we know about it.”

Because when we don’t understand what’s happening inside our bodies, it’s easy to assume the worst.

But when we understand what’s happening, fear often gives way to curiosity.

And curiosity is a much better place to begin.

Why I’m Passionate About Body Literacy

That’s one of the reasons I’m so passionate about functional movement and what I call Body Literacy.

Not because I think everyone needs to become an anatomy expert.

But because I think understanding your body changes your relationship with your body.

Understanding reduces fear.

Knowledge creates options.

Options create confidence.

And confidence changes how we move through the world.

Body Literacy is simply the process of learning enough about your body to make informed decisions about your health, movement, and well-being.

You don’t need a medical degree.

You don’t need to memorize anatomy charts.

You just need enough understanding to stop feeling like your body is a mystery.

What We Can Still Build

When we talk about healthy aging, I think we spend too much time focusing on what we’re losing and not enough time focusing on what we’re still capable of building.

We can build strength.

We can build balance.

We can build mobility.

We can build coordination.

We can build resilience.

We can build movement confidence.

We can build adaptability.

And perhaps most importantly, we can build a better understanding of ourselves.

Healthy aging isn’t about pretending nothing changes.

Healthy aging is about learning which changes we can influence.

Because there are things we can’t control.

But there are also many things we can.

And that’s where the power lives.

Not in denying reality.

Not in fighting aging.

But in participating in the process.

Learning.

Adapting.

Growing.

Continuing to build capacity for the life you want to live.

A More Empowering Story About Aging

I think that’s a much more empowering story.

And it’s one that I want more people to hear.

Because you are not powerless.

Your body is still listening.

It’s still adapting.

It’s still responding to the choices you make every day.

And that means there is far more possibility ahead of you than you may realize.

Aging isn’t the end of the story.

It’s simply a new chapter.

And like every chapter, there are things to learn, skills to develop, and opportunities to grow.

The goal isn’t to stop aging.

The goal is to continue building the strength, resilience, confidence, and adaptability that allow you to fully participate in your life.

That’s what healthy aging means to me.

And that’s why I believe understanding your body may be one of the most powerful things you can do for your future self.


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